Were you always described as the difficult one, the dramatic one, the overly sensitive one, or the “problem child” in your family? Maybe you spent years believing that if you could just behave better, achieve more, or stop causing conflict, everything around you would finally be okay.
In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explores what it means to become the family scapegoat and why the person labeled as the problem may sometimes be carrying or exposing pain that the rest of the family has learned to ignore. You'll learn how family systems can project blame onto one person, why families may resist confronting uncomfortable truths, and how the role you were assigned as a child can continue shaping your identity and relationships as an adult.
Jenn also explores one of the most important distinctions in healing: being unfairly scapegoated does not mean you never caused harm. You can take responsibility for your behavior without accepting the belief that you are fundamentally bad. You'll learn how to separate what you're responsible for, what belonged to other people, and what belonged to the family system as a whole.
Whether you're still navigating your family relationships or trying to understand how childhood experiences affect your adult life, this conversation will help you separate your identity from the role you were given, create healthier boundaries, and begin letting go of shame that was never entirely yours.
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